The Dream

We've all seen photos of families where it looks like each child respects, values and adores his or her siblings. Where smiles come from each family member no matter what the age. Where children hold hands and nobody worries about shoes that don't fit or a snack that's being saved "for later." Those photos are amazing, and of course there are times in just about every family where "the dream" of everyone getting along in a peaceful embrace of family time is right there for the taking, like a gift.

But what if "the dream" doesn't come on picture day?

What if your child is fussy, or has tears or even a full-on meltdown? I'm here for you. And I've probably seen it before. I have so much patience for the fact that photo sessions are such a unique "ask" of our kids. Truly. If you think about it, kids don't get much say on picture day. For starters if they're younger, they probably didn't spend the time you did to coordinate their outfit with the family; someone with dedication and ideas and love put a lot of thought into that outfit for them, but it might not be what they usually get to wear.

Next, their routine is changed and it's not for a trip to the zoo or to another adventure where they'll easily be entertained. And finally, they may be meeting a totally new person if it's your first time working with me. I understand all of this, and my approach in working with kids is to let them know, "I see you, you're amazing, and I'm so glad you're here."

That's my approach to working with teens and adults too.

It's so nice, to feel welcomed and valued. Once your kids feel that, they'll start to enjoy the session. I'm a mom of two teenagers, one a senior and one a junior in high school. I've been lucky to have volunteered for things in their life all while they were growing up. I think kids are amazing! I've worked with so many different personality types and yet I keep meeting new ones, and to me it's like discovering a new author. Someone who may show me something I didn't see before. I love what kids bring to the table.

At your session, you can count on me to respond to your kids in a way that matches how they've decided to show up that day.

If they need some time to chill out, we'll find it (and probably get some super sweet cuddle pictures while that's happening). If we're looking for a posed family photo, I have techniques for getting a kid to stand where it'd be most helpful, and if they don't work, we'll run with it. We're going to end up with some beautiful and thoughtful images that reflect your unique family and this unique time in your lives.

Kids are no different than the rest of us.

If given a chance, they'll shine in ways we may not have envisioned. Often, if I can tell that your kid is feeling comfortable, I'll ask parents to stand a few steps away when it's time to get a portrait of just your child. During this time you can talk to each other, admire the scenery, whatever you like and odds are your kid will love being the center of attention when I chat with them and let them know it's their special turn to take their picture. What usually happens next is they notice their parents standing together and want nothing more than to run over and be scooped up for a group photo. It's the sweetest thing!

The directions in a photo session are best coming from me. This takes all pressure off you to "corral" your kids, and it helps them to hear instructions from only one person. If it doesn't look like your kid is listening to me, don't worry! I'm super patient and can usually find a workaround. I'd rather be flexible and give up on a pose than force it. If I know it's a pose you really want I'll keep it in my mind and we'll try again after some time has gone by.

What I want you to know is that it will all work out. You've done a lot to bring your family together for the session and once you arrive, I'd love for you to feel that the pressure is off. That's my goal.

Our time together might involve your child taking off his too-tight shoes, or putting rocks in his mouth, or pulling one of their pieces of clothing fully over their head. (Yes, all this has happened during sessions!) Each time we've let that moment occur and then fade away. Except for the rocks, we stopped that one right away!

Your family has a unique heartbeat. You're a team and when you relax and support each other at your session you'll be amazed at the difference that makes. This is true for kids, and true for all ages. It's important to feel seen, loved, valued, listened to and cared for. It may not be a day where "the dream" family time comes through.

But—it might. And I'll be here encouraging you, cheering you on, respecting your time and working to bring out the light and love I see in your family's story.